Sunday, January 31, 2010

Who Are You?

How well do you know yourself? I mean REALLY know yourself? Have you ever taken the time to get to know you? The truth is, just because we are with ourselves 24/7 doesn’t necessarily mean that we know ourselves. There is not one person on this earth that we will spend more time with for the entire course of our lives than ourselves. So, we might as well get to know who that person is, and at the very least, practice being good company…with ourselves, that is!

It might sound funny, but it’s not a bad idea to reacquaint yourself with you every day. Just take a couple of moments to reflect. Who are you? How are you going to be in the world today? What is important to you? How do you want to feel? How do you want to express yourself? If it were your choice, how would you like to be perceived, and are your behaviors in alignment with that?

What are your values? What is really important to you? How do you know that you’re living up to your values? [I’ll give you a hint: take a good look at your behaviors! For example, if you said that you value family, but consistently avoid spending time with your family, you might need to re-examine your values, or more importantly, your priorities.]

What is your vision for yourself? Does your vision depict you as thriving or suffering? Are you creating a vision that works for you or against you? If you envision yourself never having happiness and/or success, and you’re currently unhappy and unsuccessful, are you aware of the fact that you are actually living your vision?

What characteristics are important to you in other people? Do you possess those characteristics yourself, and do you make it a point to surround yourself with people who have those characteristics? [For example, if you feel respect is an important characteristic in others, do you give others respect? Do you surround yourself with people who are respectful, or with people who disrespect you?]

What motivates you? What drains your energy? Do you feel deserving of good things? What types of things do you say to yourself about yourself on a daily basis? Do you practice self-awareness? What things do you like about yourself? What things could use a little polishing, or reconstructing altogether? Who are you, and what role do you play in that?

I could go on, but would like to invite you to add more questions that you feel we could all benefit from asking ourselves.

Enjoy getting to know you, and if you feel so moved, share who you are with us so we can get to know you, too!


Saturday, January 16, 2010

Living in the Now

Well, here we are, two weeks into the New Year. How are things going? Have you made any worthwhile changes? Are you honoring yourself and playing an active role in creating the life you desire? Really think about it. What are you doing right now that is contributing to your experience of life at this very moment? How are you creating well-being and peace of mind in your present? What are you doing to enhance your now?

When you break it down, all we ever really have is the very moment we are living in. The past is over and the future hasn't arrived yet. Certainly it’s a good idea to think about the future, but it’s now and only now that we have an opportunity to prepare for the future. And even the future can only be experienced in the now…not right now, but in the now that will be at that time. Following me? If not, you’ve got to read Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth, or The Power of Now. Great books—very awakening and inspiring—as long as they are accompanied with an open mind.

The purpose of focusing on the importance of the present moment isn't to dismiss the past because the past can certainly teach us a thing or two about how to live in the moment. The fact of the matter is we can't change the past, and therefore, there is no true benefit to spending our time and energy fixating on it. On the flip side, if we are always focused on the future we are not plugged in to the present moment, which is the only time we can experience life and take action to create the future we desire. How we spend our time right now directly affects our experience of life in the current moment, and can give us a somewhat accurate idea of the path we’re paving to the future. The truth is this; the only opportunity we get to experience our life is right now. Life is always in the now. When your future gets here it won't be will be in the now.

So, I ask you again…how are you spending your now? Are you spending it doing what needs to be done? Are you engaging in self-care? Are you taking responsibility for your own life? Are you shedding light and clarity on your needs and desires, and orchestrating movement toward attaining them?

Living in the now…what does this mean to you?

Peace and Love,

Sunday, January 3, 2010

The "C" Word

There’s just something about the New Year that feels like a fresh start. I mean, technically, everyday (every minute, even) can be a fresh start if we want it to be, but the New Year somehow makes it official. It’s amazing to me how counting down on December 31 at 11:59pm—10, 9, 8, 7, 6—has so much psychological power. How those last moments—5, 4, 3, 2—can spark so much unity, excitement, and celebration. And how that last second before the clock strikes midnight –1—signifies not only a new day, but a brand new year. And not only a New Year, but CHANGE. There it is…the “C” word.

If you are one of those people who claim to not like change, but you celebrated with joy the onset of the New Year, and have been pondering the things you’d like to start doing or stop doing on account of the New Year, then you might not be as fearful of change as you originally thought. This is good news, and a very pertinent piece of information to know about yourself as it will serve you as you transition into 2010. You’ll have to frequently remind yourself of this pertinent piece of information, of course, otherwise you might forget and your intentions for change will slip away only to show up on next year’s list.

Instead of just writing down my intentions, a friend of mine suggested doing a 2010 intention candle ceremony as the blue moon graced and introduced us to the New Year on December 31. I liked the idea. It was different and seemed to fit the theme of change. So, I did it. Shortly after the clock struck 12 and I had my New Year cry (Auld Lang Syne does it to me EVERY TIME…don’t know the words or what they mean, but the tears flow), I lit my candles, stated my intentions from deep within my heart, and released them to the Universe one breath at a time. I had seven intentions, Universal requests, resolutions, revolutions, transformations, things I’d like to manifest…or whatever you’d like to call them. Unlike the birthday candle wishes, I think it’s safe to share my New Year wishes with you:

(1) Clarity—about who I am, what my purpose is this year, what my role is in attracting and maintaining healthy relationships with others, and what beliefs I still hold that no longer serve me.

(2) Creativity—to assist in transforming my relationship with myself and others, my career, health, finances, and spirituality.

(3) Let go and receive—learn to let go of things that don’t serve my better good so I can receive things that do. I believe that our ability to give from a healthy place stems from our ability to receive from a healthy place.

(4) Internal knowing of my value, goodness, and grace as a contributor to this world.

(5) Courage to stand up to, challenge, and move past my fears.

(6) A stronger spiritual bond.

(7) Gentle kindness and loving care for myself and others.

I was watching the movie Evan Almighty on New Year’s Eve, and in it God (Morgan Freeman) said, “When people ask for patience do you think He just gives them patience, or does He give them opportunities to be patient?” This statement resonated with me on a very powerful day of the year, a day that marks a fresh start, a new beginning, and endless possibilities.

I’m really looking forward to the opportunities that await. How about you? What are your 2010 intentions? How do you plan to transform yourself and the world this year? What changes are important to you, and what are you going to do to assure that you make them? Set your intentions and brace yourself for the opportunities that will emerge everyday (big, small, obvious, and in disguise).

Happy New Year!

Warm Regards,